Business draining your energy? Here are 5 ways that your business drains your energy and how you can start to get it back!
I hear it all the time that business owners are EXHAUSTED. Which I get. You’re wearing a lot of hats, working multiple jobs/departments, and trying to live a life.
But I also don’t think that being burnt-out, exhausted, and busy should be the norm and accepted (by ourselves) long-term. It’s not sustainable and certainly doesn’t accurately represent profitability, joy, fulfillment, or being a happy human.
Sometimes we go a little too long on autopilot. We immediately react to whatever is in front of us and triggering us the most. Whether that be not enough money/clients, clients with shitty boundaries, keeping up with all your content, etc. We react to the immediate needs of what’s happening right in front of us. In the process, we lose sight of consciously creating what we really WANT.
I know that I titled this post “sneaky ways that your business is draining your energy”, but really these are ways that we drain our own energy. We are powerful af creators. But when we forget that power and get into reactive, unconscious mode, we can really make a f*cking mess of things. Our business, our money, our personal relationships. The whole life shebang.
If you’re in the midst of the clean up process so you can reclaim some of your energy and center yourself (a) I see you and I’m with you (b) these are my top tips to make the process easier.
One | You’ve Got Too Many Open Loops
We all have things on our “someday” list. Sending the follow-up email, cleaning your car, hiring the coach, paying a bill, etc. Every item that’s present and open on your list creates an open loop. If we aren’t careful or intentional, open loops are like little energy leaks that we don’t even know exist.
What are all the items that you have on the “I’ll get to that when I get to it” list? Seriously, write a list of the open loops in your life and business and you’ll see why you’re so dang drained. This a common way that your business is draining your energy with (fortunately) and easy fix.
Do your present self (and future self) a favor and pick three items on that list and complete them today. Close three loops. You can even pick the easiest things that take a few minutes each. Whether that’s reach out to a person, clean your desk, or finally make that doctor’s appointment. You’ll feel the weight lift.
Pro Tip: I recommend having a slot in your calendar dedicated to loop closing. Maybe this is an hour every week or a three hour slot every month. Having dedicated time to close loops keeps you on top of the things that slip through the cracks and nurtures your energy.
Two | You’re Making Your Business a Scapegoat For Other Problem Areas
Like I say with money, our business will never talk back to us. So it’s an easy target to project other pain points that we have in our lives. Our relationships with our business and money are mirrors for other relationships in our lives – including our relationship with ourselves.
If you’re feeling especially drained in your business, where else are you out of balance in your life? What relationships need to recalibrate the energy exchange? Then, how can you advocate for yourself and ask for what you need in a way that honors all parties involved?
Pro Tip: Journal a bit on the core feelings that are coming up in your business. Feeling frustrated? Underappreciated? Drained? When you look at these feelings, what relationship do they represent to you? Who do they resemble? That’s the relationship that needs some nurturing to alleviate these feelings.
Three | You’re Amplifying Problems That Aren’t Yours
As an empathetic and caring person, it’s easy to unconsciously take on a problem, pain point, or belief that isn’t yours. If there’s an emotional knot in your business that you just can’t untangle, take a moment to check-in: is it even yours?
We try to make our clients’ results our responsibility. But we can only contribute our share to the relationship. We don’t/can’t/shouldn’t run their businesses for them. Or we’re creating scarcity anxiety and stress when the belief that’s sourcing it isn’t even our own; it belongs to mom or dad.
Pro Tip: Journal around this knot to identify what’s yours and what can you send back to another person. Imagine yourself packaging this energy. Then send it to the Universe to be cleansed and sent back to whoever it belongs to. Imagine yourself receiving beautifully packaged and clean energy that you left behind somewhere.
Four | Your Boundaries Suck
Full disclosure, I’m really writing this post for me. But thought that I would share it with you too! A kind friend reflected back to me recently that I’m cleaning up messes because of my lack of boundaries. And boy, did that comment nail me.
Lack of boundaries is one of the fastest ways to let your business drain your energy.
Every action (or inaction) has an effect. Even if we think that we’re doing people a favor or avoiding conflict by having no boundaries, we’re really just making a mess for ourselves to clean up down the road.
People pleasing is actually a selfish act that we commit to avoid the discomfort of disappointing others or feeling guilt/shame around having strong boundaries. It’s something we learned in childhood as a strategy to avoid conflict.
I’m talking to you and me when I’m saying, set clear boundaries NOW to protect and honor your energy. Because this is truly the best way to honor all parties involved. You won’t resent people down the line. You won’t be taking their power away from them under the guise of “helping them out.” You’ll reclaim a buttload of your own energy too.
Pro Tip: Imagine yourself as a tank for your energy. Where are the leaks and how much is pouring out? Energetically comb through and plug those leaks. In terms of Earth stuff, set stronger boundaries at the time and not just after the fact. The temporary discomfort will save you pain down the road. Remember that other people’s reactions to your boundaries are theirs and not on you.
Five | You Need to Take a Break
I know, I know. High achievers, people pleasers, and entrepreneurs in general have a love/hate relationship with “rest.” But I want to remind you that rest does not make you weak or mean that you’re missing out on anything. If your business is draining you, you also need to fill yourself back up.
Working yourself to the bone is (a) a really shitty boundary and (b) a scarcity practice. You have the rest of the days of your life to work. You can afford a nap, an afternoon, time unplugged (digitally and mentally) from your business, and the joy of being present in your life.
You can AFFORD it. Even if it’s three deep breaths to come back into your body. You can AFFORD it – time, energy, and money.
Pro Tip: Being present and joyous is the entire point of this living a human life on planet Earth thing. If you chronically struggle with the whole “I want to rest so badly but I can never just let myself DO it” thing, I highly recommend working with a coach to dismantle the subconscious beliefs that are holding up that house of cards.
You can’t expect things to change if you keep doing the same things. Get someone on your team who can be a real, live person to advocate to YOU for the dreams and life that you want to live when you can’t.